A very drunk girl once approached my best friend literally screaming, "You're gay! Let's be friends! Do you like Robyn?! My best friend is gay, and Drunk Girl was just trying too hard to be friendly, but he still cringed. So many girls shamelessly "just want a gay best friend," and can you blame them? Why shouldn't all ladies want a man who will just listen and go shopping but isn't a total betch like their girlfriends are can be?
How to Tell if Your Guy Friend Is Gay: 15 Steps (with Pictures)
One Saturday afternoon last winter, I drove north on Route 85 through the rolling rangeland of southeastern Wyoming. I was headed to a small town north of Cheyenne to see an old friend and colleague named Michael Glatze. We worked together 12 years ago at XY, a San Francisco-based national magazine for young gay men, back when we were young gay men ourselves. Though only a year removed from Dartmouth when he arrived at XY, Michael had seemingly read every gay book ever written. While I was busy trying to secure a boyfriend, he was busy contemplating queer theory, marching in gay rights rallies and urging young people to celebrate not just accept their same-sex attractions. Michael was devoted to helping gay youth, and he was particularly affected by the letters the magazine received regularly from teenagers who were rejected by their religious families. I had never met anyone so sure of himself.
I met Kellan on the third day of our freshman year of college, at a dining hall table of misfits. By the third day of orientation, my given roommate Troy — a wannabe frat boy with an outsized ego and zero game — having already decided I was a social liability, had ditched me for what he deemed a more lucrative social circle and left me to find dinner alone. But I saw an open seat at a table full of guys I recognized from our dorm, and asked if I could join.
I have been dating my boyfriend for two years now. When we first met he was dressed really nice and looked really good, almost pretty. As we talked more and got to know each other he told me that he had a lot of friends that were girls.